How much do our parents and grandparents influence us? Of course, the genes we inherit from them determine lots of important things about us, but what about emotionally or spiritually?
I’d like to suggest that they influence us more than we might care to admit. We also tend to underestimate the potential they have in molding the value systems of the next generation.
A powerful case in point is a story in this week’s Parshah. Joseph is sold into slavery down in Egypt, and winds up in the house of Potiphar. His master’s wife casts her lustful gaze on the handsome young man and repeatedly attempts to seduce him. Joseph is consistent in his refusal to even consider her advances. Then, one day, the entire household goes to the temple for a special occasion. She feigns illness in order to be home alone with Joseph. He comes to the house “to do his work” (Genesis 39:11). Rashi offers two interpretations: the simple, that he came to work; and another, that he actually came to do his “work” with her!
Determined as he was, on this occasion Joseph was beginning to falter. Morale and morality were weakening, and it seemed as if he was about to succumb to the temptress’ entreaties.
Then suddenly, something happened to help Joseph regain his senses and self-control. What was it—did they come home early? Did the postman ring the bell? Says Rashi: there appeared before Joseph a vision, one so potent that it restored his composure there and then. What was that image? Quoting the Talmud, Rashi says it was “the image of the visage of his father.” Joseph suddenly saw the face of his father, Jacob, and with that his moral resolve was restored.
Was this a telepathic message transmitted from the Holy Land? According to the simple reading, at that stage Jacob didn’t even know that Joseph was alive. He had been missing and presumed dead, devoured by a wild animal. The straightforward understanding of this Talmudic passage is that Joseph remembered his father and envisioned his patriarchal face, the classical image of the sage with the long white beard. And with that image in his mind, Joseph found renewed spiritual stamina to resist temptation.
Some might understand this episode as Joseph not wanting to disappoint his aged father. Others might see the image as a catalyst evoking in Joseph his own latent spiritual resources. Either way, with Jacob’s visage in his mind, Joseph wasn’t prepared to lose the moral high ground. He couldn’t and wouldn’t do it to his dad. And, through his father, Joseph remembered who he was—a proud son of Jacob and grandson of Isaac and Abraham.
Such was the effect Jacob had on Joseph, and such is the effect every father and mother, grandfather and grandfather, can potentially bring to bear on their offspring. Of course, they would have to be respected by their children as men and women of stature for their image to represent any kind of moral symbolism.
Joseph was nearly lost way down in Egypt land, but that one image of his father saved him from sin and helped him go on to achieve greatness. May we all be good role models, and may our own images help inspire our children and grandchildren
-adapted from www.chabad.org
